Updated: Aug 27, 2019
What is borderline and what are the symptoms?
"People with borderline are like people with third degree burns over 90% of their bodies. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the slightest touch or movement" - Dr. Marsha Linhan
Borderline personality disorder is a mental illness characterized by difficulties regulating emotions leading to impulsive behavior, intense ups and downs in relationships, poor self-image, (potential) suicidal behavior and self-harm. Statistically, about 70% of borderliners will make at least one suicide attempt in their life, in which about 10% complete it. Over 40% of borderliners are misdiagnosed with other mental disorders such as major depressive disorder and bipolar disorder. So bringing more awareness to it is so crucial so less people have to go through misdiagnosis. Thankfully there is good news about bpd! It is very much treatable in which about 88% of people who were once diagnosed with bpd and went through treatment, no longer met the criteria for diagnosis ten years later.
The causes are still not fully understood but scientists have found that genetics, environmental factors and brain function all play a role in the development of borderline. Especially, people who have experienced trauma in their life such as physical or sexual abuse during childhood or have been neglected or separated from their parents are at greater risk of developing BPD.
(Disclaimer: Please don't think I'm mocking bpd in any way. I truly struggle with it on a daily and for me something that helps is using humor to cope with it. I think the moment I really understood what bpd is about and felt like I wasn't alone was when I found out about bpd memes! So I wanted to include them in my explanation of symptoms. Please don't think that by the use of memes I am devaluing the seriousness of this mental illness. I just want to make it easier to understand, and easier on the heart and mind to read.)
Extreme efforts to avoid and extreme fear of real or imagined abandonment.
Feelings of chronic emptiness, isolation and/or boredom
Unstable relationships that go from intense idealization to intense hate (extreme ups and downs)
Distorted and unstable self-image and having or feeling like you have no sense of self (self-identity)
Self-harming, suicidal thoughts and/or attempts
Impulsive behavior such as substance abuse, reckless spending, reckless driving, unsafe sex
Periods of intense irritability, anxiety and/or depression that last can last from a few hours to a few days
Feelings of intense or uncontrollable anger
Dissociation - feeling disconnected from yourself, from others and the world (similar to an out of body experience)
Interferes with daily activities, career, school, health and relationships.
For a long time I was misdiagnosed but it was last year that I found out that I have borderline personality disorder. It is something that definitely affects me everyday and my decisions in life. But I have been working really hard on myself, along with seeing multiple therapists a couple times a week, and learning how to cope with it my own way by listening to my body's needs. Already since starting my treatment I can see a HUGE change in myself and in my mental stability, so I am here to tell you my dear borderliners that there is hope!
ALSO! I decided to create a bpd meme Instagram page for you! Just a little something you can scroll through when you feel down or need a good laugh :) I hope we can all just laugh about our crippling mental health, talk openly about how we feeling and support each other! I hope it helps in any way <3
Sending you warm hugs,
light, love and positivity.